vincex
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Post by vincex on Jul 25, 2006 3:55:39 GMT -5
That's so sad, I have no words, wish I could do something... We don't know and don't understand why such things happen, maybe it was the will of God that wanted Blake close to him...my sincere condolence to Roger and his family.
Vince
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Post by mkglenney on Jul 25, 2006 5:54:32 GMT -5
Sharon,
My prayers to go Blake's family, especially Roger. Blake died on my son's 12th birthday.
It is so hard, unimaginable to lose a child. It makes you appreciate life and your children so much more. I'm sitting here crying....
Let us know if we can contribute financially. Should we set up a fund for his funeral expenses?
Melissa
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Post by scobb on Jul 25, 2006 8:55:45 GMT -5
Hey Everyone
Again thanks so much for the kind words and especially the prayers. It is hard to watch someone go through something like this and feel like there isn't anything you can do really....very helpless feeling. I will be praying for the family with the little girl that drowned and also for Darwin's family. Please never hesitate to ask me for prayers for anything!
The viewing is today and the funeral is tomorrow. Instead of buying flowers, I bought a white dove release. I'm hoping this somehow brings them comfort and helps them begin the healing process.
I think Lori and Melissa both have mentioned a fund or something to help with the funeral. I know money stresses can be aweful at any time and I know I surely wouldn't not want to have to be concerned about money through my mourning. But, I think I'm like my Dad in ways...I hate to ask anyone for money for anything! So I will leave that completely and totally up to you. If it is something you feel led to do, then that is between you and God and would be greatly appreciated by Roger. I am 100% sure of that!
I'm not sure if I mentioned this before, but Roger donated Blakes eyes for transplant for another child. He said that maybe this will help another child see what his son no longer can. I am so proud of him. I know this was probably a hard thing to do but what a gift to another child!!
Autopsy information has not been passed on to me as of yet.
Thanks again so much...please continue to pray through the next few days as I'm sure it is going to be hard today and tomorrow! The man doing the dove release told me it is actually harder about three weeks out when people stop coming around and life is returning to what SHOULD be normal but it is normal for everyone else....he just lost his daughter 10 months ago from thryoid storm.
Anyway....this posts is getting rather long so I'll cut it off here...
Thanks again Sharon
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Post by Sandi Moses on Jul 25, 2006 9:07:05 GMT -5
The man doing the dove release told me it is actually harder about three weeks out when people stop coming around and life is returning to what SHOULD be normal but it is normal for everyone else.... This is very true. Everyone goes back to their own lives and routines and the family is left to pick up the pieces. It can get overwhelming because of the feelings of being alone. This is where it is essential that the church and close friends do not drop the ball. Make sure hospital counselors and Roger's pastor have talked seriously (not casually) about getting into a support group - they will really help with this period.
That is fantastic that Roger had the presence of mind, courage, and generosity to donate Blake's eyes. What a priceless and unselfish gift!
Sandi
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Post by Sandra on Jul 25, 2006 22:19:30 GMT -5
Sharon,
I just saw this thread... I'm so sorry to hear this. Losing someone you love is always hard, even more so when it's a child. My thoughts go out to the family. Like Jim, I do not practise any kind of religion even though I'm officially a Christian... but even though I will not be praying, I want you to know that my thoughts are with Blake and his family.
Sandra
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Post by shelackey on Jul 26, 2006 19:38:36 GMT -5
Sharon,
I read this yesterday with my 2 year old on my lap. I felt so sad that I was unable to really say anything. I have been praying for you and your friend. I am so glad Roger was able to donate, his sons life gave a new life to another. Again, my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Jules
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Post by Anthony on Jul 27, 2006 17:49:22 GMT -5
That hits very close to home with me as I have an eight year old son and he means the world to me. I dont know what I would do If I woke up and found he had been takin from me.
Please Send Roger and the rest of the family my best wishes and let him know that He is in my thoughts and prayers.
Anthony
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scobb
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Post by scobb on Jul 28, 2006 8:32:26 GMT -5
Hey All
Just a quick note...its been a long hard week. Trying to deal with the loss of Blake, getting my kitchen stuff finished AND going up to the school to begin work on my room ( I had to change rooms this year uggg). It has been very wild, heart felt and often pushing myself to get something accomplished. At any rate, I wanted to convey to everyone that Roger asked me to tell everyone he is so thankful for the prayers and thoughts. There has been such an outpouring of love it has been amazing. The funeral expenses have been covered except for around 500.00 from friends, family and even strangers. The owner of the fair ride donated a great deal even though it was no fault of the fair/ride. There is still a headstone to be bought be we are confident God will provide the way.
By the way, in bringing up the ride again...if i did not say so the first time around..Blake was not under any activity restrictions by his cardiologist. I just say this because a radio station decided to bash on Roger one afternoon for putting a son with a heart condition on a ride. Needless to say, someone set them straight..they made an apology on air and donated some money asking listeners to match.
At any rate, he wanted me to thank you all and I want to thank you all again. I believe in the power of prayer and believe it has helped a lot! Please continue to remember them from time to time as the weeks pass and he is faced with every day life without his son, birthdays, holidays etc.
Thanks again Sharon
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Post by Skyrocket on Jul 30, 2006 15:04:01 GMT -5
Hi Sharon, sounds like you have a pretty full life at the moment, I guess moving rooms is a pretty messy job, especially if you teach creative things like clay work! I hope it all goes well for you. It's good to see that Roger is receiving so much support and acknowledging it, I have no experience and don't pretend to know anything of how he is feeling, but I guess it will be hard to see, hear and think straight, so the fact that he realises that there are so many people out there that are pulling together for him must be a big help. Sounds like the radio station needed to get their facts straight before spurting out a load of rubbish on air, although I'm glad it got straightened out and turned out to help Roger through a donation. I just hope he didn't hear it and started to use it to enforce the blame he has already put on himself. I would also like to say how much I admire you Sharon, you are such a loving caring person and Roger is very lucky to have a good friend such as you. My wife is also called Sharon and she seems similar in nature to you, she is always thinking of others and very compassionate, also very strong in mind. I just wanted you to know that you have an admirer and I wish you great success with this business and anything you want in life, although I expect what you want is something for your friends and family!
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scobb
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Post by scobb on Oct 23, 2006 23:38:48 GMT -5
Hey Gang...
Well it has been awhile hasn't it! Boy time flies! It has been a rough road and in ways getting rougher and I can't believe it is already October. I anticipated getting back to business in just a few short weeks. I've been reading over the updated stories and such and it seems everyone is doing so well..LORI G and ZETA...and others..WOOHOO! I have a question of you all great folks. My website needs updating as I have not kept up with the ongoing changes and with the holidays upon us, should I kick back up now or wait until the first of the year? I'm not sure if there is "down time" through the upcoming holidays or what. Any advice on this would be appreciated. I'll probably repost this thread somewhere more appropriate!
Thanks much Sharon
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Post by futureadvantage on Oct 24, 2006 4:29:35 GMT -5
Sharon,
I would begin the process of checking all the programs and links. A number of the programs have come and gone. ClickBank for example has recently made a number of changes they have dropped several of the programs that were being promoted, Type-at-home has now began their own affiliate program and not clickbank connected any longer. 1. So make sure your links are operating and promote the product you are advertising. Some links may now have a substitute product. 2. Read through the post on the various vendors to see what changes have taken place. 3. Check out the changes in TOP's itself, Erich and Tom have made it into a downline builder in that it now promotes your affiliate programs directly. 4. I would begin to advertise and promote as soon as you are confortable with your site and the links.
Welcome back
Michael
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scobb
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Post by scobb on Dec 13, 2006 21:11:55 GMT -5
Update:
I'm not sure I ever posted this anywhere, but wanted to update everyone since you were all so supportive, caring and helpful with prayer..and since we just found out for sure....The first autopsy on Blake was "inconclusive". This meant it was not the heart condition he was treated for in earlier years. So the results of the autopsy was sent on to a different/bigger/better facility and just came back. The conclusion is that Blake had numerous heart anamolies (hope I spelled that right) that would not be caught by any equipment available in science today but would only be found during such procedures as an autopsy. The anamolies were such as they were shocked he did not die at infancy. This is "good" news for Roger as he still struggled with the idea of possibly doing something wrong by putting him on the ride even though he had clearance from his Dr.'s and also cleared the Docs too, from an oversight. As hard as it is, it was simply time and we were very blessed to have had him as long as we did.
Thanks again for all the prayers and support in those first days/weeks after Blake died! Sharon
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Post by hazenenterprises on Dec 14, 2006 11:41:29 GMT -5
Sharon,
Although nothing replaces the loss, I am glad that Roger can be relieved to know that he had no control over things. Somewhere inside, that will make him find some peace.
I was not in the Forum when all of this occured but just read through. What a terrible loss and so hard to understand but we must accept what God puts in our path. It is so hard to not ask why, so hard to accept this kind of loss, but we must have faith and trust in God for he will never give us more than we can handle.
May God bless you and Roger (he is lucky to have someone like you to support him!).
Robin
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Post by Sandi Moses on Dec 15, 2006 10:35:28 GMT -5
Update: I'm not sure I ever posted this anywhere, but wanted to update everyone since you were all so supportive, caring and helpful with prayer..and since we just found out for sure....The first autopsy on Blake was "inconclusive". This meant it was not the heart condition he was treated for in earlier years. So the results of the autopsy was sent on to a different/bigger/better facility and just came back. The conclusion is that Blake had numerous heart anamolies (hope I spelled that right) that would not be caught by any equipment available in science today but would only be found during such procedures as an autopsy. The anamolies were such as they were shocked he did not die at infancy. This is "good" news for Roger as he still struggled with the idea of possibly doing something wrong by putting him on the ride even though he had clearance from his Dr.'s and also cleared the Docs too, from an oversight. As hard as it is, it was simply time and we were very blessed to have had him as long as we did. Thanks again for all the prayers and support in those first days/weeks after Blake died! Sharon I can only imagine the weight of the load of guilt that was removed by that medical report. Even though there is nothing worse than the loss of a child, getting that news will hopefully make it easier for Roger and the rest of Blake's family, friends and doctors to finally "let go" and continue getting on with the rest of their lives.
Sandi
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